The Sadness is REAL. But I Exploded in Anger!

Well, damn it! Apparently, I just can't continue to ignore this. Have you felt the sadness too? Overwhelming sadness? It’s like a mist in the air. I have been asking some of my clients if they also feel it. They inhale, get a little wide-eyed, exhale, and respond, "Yes." 

I feel it began in early July and I thought it was done but it just continues to move through many of us in phases. It was doable but constant. There are moments where we come up for air and are hit with the latest world event that brings back the hopelessness.

I did not want to write about sadness, but I want you to know that you are not alone if you are feeling it too. It is an emotion. We do not have to fear it or feed it, but when we don’t address it, it can turn into heavier emotions.   

I also want to remind you that when you honor the emotion you allow it to move through you. I have felt physically better since honoring my sadness. I expect to feel better energy flow, but I am also experiencing more muscle flexibility. I urge you to set aside time to do this work if you can relate. I found myself exploding in anger when I didn’t take the time.

TAKE THE TIME. 

I will include a round of tapping to help with honoring and releasing it. 

We are going into Fall the season of quiet and we WILL NOT GET SEDUCED BY THE DEPRESSION! Got it?! 

I have learned the hard way: we must be proactive, or our bodies will have a pity party and forget to invite us. (Read more here) 

Here is a basic list of preventative measures: 

1. Start with Gratitude – Make a gratitude list either on paper or in your head at the same time every day. Get creative with it.  Send thank-you notes to whomever you would like. 
2. Be Helpful and Kind – Perform acts of loving kindness to feed your soul. 
3. Soak in Motivation and Inspiration daily – Read or listen to something inspiring each day. Grow your soul. 
4. Leave the past behind – You cannot expect to wake up each day feeling great if you keep reliving and feeding yourself the shitty stories of the past. When those stories pop in, “flip and turn” them to how you want to feel (read more here).
5. Feel it - Get clear on how you want to experience life and create the feeling so that your body will allow and flow with that intention. 
6. Visualize your day – Each morning, visualize and FEEL how you want to experience your day and create it. You may have to perform a few resets throughout the day. 
7. Guzzle water – Yes, water. Drink a lot of it. 
8. Get out in nature – Get your ass outside for at least 10 minutes a day, but preferably more. 
9. Eat better – You were “all in” until I said this one huh? 😊 I’m not happy about this either, but we know it’s true. We FEEL better and have more energy when we nourish ourselves. Take small steps and make it doable. Promise yourself to eat a certain number of fruits and vegetables each day and do it. Even if you have to play the game of “I have to eat all of these vegetables before I can enjoy anything else.” Get creative and have fun. 
10. Live "As If" – Live as if your life is as you would like. Walk the walk, and talk the talk. If you would like to be more confident, ask yourself, how do confident people behave and do that.   
11. Create connection – This one is very important. Find your people and cultivate relationships. 

Time and energy are moving at a much faster rate than so many of us have been used to and we are going to continue to go through these rapid energy shifts. However, many of us are already becoming more accustomed to them. More importantly, we have to prepare ourselves by being proactive. Otherwise, we get stuck into the fear and anger. Don’t do that. I've watched many people that I Love and adore get stuck there. NO RABBIT holes.

 If you can't control it, don't open your energy to it. 

You have control over this moment, your thoughts and your actions. This is your power. This is your frequency. Come up for air often. Follow the fun and do what you have to do to create the best reality for you. 

Are you ready to move that stuck energy?

Let's Clear It Now!

Emotional Freedom Technique for Clearing Sadness

If you can specifically pinpoint the sadness, do it, if not, it is completely OK. You just need to feel it so we can move it. For me, it’s been everything from Lineage energy, to a relationship hardship, to Afghanistan and our political division. It has been all over the place. 

Please measure the sadness on a scale from 1 to 10. 10 being the most uncomfortable. Do this for yourself so you can observe the movement that you have been able to create. You want to do your best to get it as uncomfortable as you possibly can so that we can get the pendulum to swing more strongly to the other side. I have attached an image for EFT tapping points to help you with this. 

Begin tapping on the point, and say the words out loud! 

Karate Chop Point: Even though I feel the sadness, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. Even though the sadness runs through me and I feel it, I am OK. Even though this sadness has just been too great a burden, I love and accept myself, and I honor the sadness that I feel. 

Top of your head: I am sad and I feel it. It's so frustrating to feel this hopeless. 

Above your eyebrow: This sadness that I feel in my body is depleting. I'm so tired of being sad. 

Side of your eye: This sadness that I feel. I honor it and I allow it to flow. 

Now I want you to notice where in your body you feel it and just allow yourself to honor the feeling in that location. 

Below your eye: (Please take a deep breath.) This sadness that I carry here. I feel it and I honor it. This sadness in my body. 

Below your nose: I feel and honor the sadness in my body. There's nothing to be afraid of. I'm honoring it and allowing it to flow and letting it go. 

Below your collarbone: (Please take a deep breath.) I am feeling the energy shift. I am moving this sadness from my conscious and my subconscious. I don’t need to carry it anymore. It is not validating me. 

Under your armpits: I remember that I am the creator of my experiences. I am choosing hope. I am choosing presence. I am choosing Love. In this moment, I am safe to feel good. I do not need to carry any guilt for feeling good. 

Top of your head: Being human is a trip but I'm not going to allow it to be hard. I am in control of my thoughts and I'm not going to feed my mind thoughts that do not feel good. 

Above your eyebrow: I can't expect to wake up feeling fabulous if I'm bringing the past with me. I cannot personally control what is happening around me but I do control what is happening within me. I choose thoughts that support how I feel. 

Side of your eye: I am safe and I honor what I feel. It is safe for me to feel better. I am feeling calmer. 

Below your eye: I am feeling better. I am more peace-filled. I am more hopeful. I am Light. I am Love.

Below your nose:  I got this! And so it is. And so I am. Thy will is done.

You did it! Measure the feeling now, see if you were able to get it down, and repeat this as many times as you need to feel better.

Much Love,

Dena Gould