The one question that changed how I protect my energy

Let’s talk about something that most of us never learned growing up but absolutely should have.

We’re out here living life. The sun is shining. It’s summer. Maybe we’re spending time with family, maybe we’re traveling, or maybe we’re just doing our usual grocery run or stopping by TJ Maxx “real quick” and out of nowhere...

something shifts in our energy.

We were feeling fine and peaceful. Then suddenly, we're irritated, foggy, and anxious.
It’s like someone turned the dial on our nervous system without our permission.

So naturally, our mind starts spinning:

“Did I forget something?”
“Why am I suddenly so edgy?”
“Is something wrong with me?”
But what if nothing is wrong with us at all?
What if we’re just… absorbing?

Travel has always been when I’m most energetically vulnerable. If I’m not paying attention, I’ll end up picking up some funky energy. Flying makes me especially open, but even short drives in my car can leave me feeling off if I’m not conscious of it.

Remember my favorite saying, “Everything is energy?”

We are energy beings before we are anything else. Our physical body has boundaries, but our energy field/our aura, is wide open unless we consciously tend to it.

That means every room we walk into, every person we hug or stand next to in line, every conversation we overhear, we are receiving and exchanging frequencies.

And for my sensitive souls, my empaths, my spiritually attuned men and women — we feel all of it.

We might not even realize how deeply we’re picking up on other people’s stuff. We feel their sadness, stress, control patterns, grief, insecurities, or expectations.

We were never taught to recognize that just because we feel something doesn’t mean it belongs to us.

I finally learned to ask this one sacred question.

The question that changed my energy hygiene, my mental peace, my relationships, and my capacity to stay grounded no matter what chaos is happening around me:

“Is this even mine?” 

When I wake up already in a mood.
When I start feeling tense while scrolling social media.
When I walk into a room and feel like my shoulders instantly tense up.
When I’m halfway through a conversation and I feel myself getting reactive, sad, or confused for no clear reason. 

This question has been my spiritual reset button.
And when we pause long enough to ask it and truly listen for the answer… our body always knows. 

How to use it in your life: 

Let’s walk through it together. It’s simple, but don’t let that fool you; the most powerful healing tools are. 

Pause. 
Close your eyes or drop your gaze. Breathe into your belly. Feel your body. Anchor in. 

Ask. 
Say to yourself or out loud, “Is this even mine?”
Let your intuition answer, not your logical mind (try the Human Pendulum technique!)

Listen. 
You might feel a yes, a no, a sudden sense of relief, or even an emotional release. Let it come. 

Release. 
If it’s not yours, you do not need to carry it.
Say, “I lovingly return this energy to the Divine Source to be recycled for the highest good of all. I reclaim all of me now.” Visualize your field being cleared. See light sweeping through your body and expanding all around you like a protective cocoon. You can even do a gentle shake-out of your hands and arms, or tap on your collarbones and heart to reinforce the release. 

If what you’re feeling is yours, that’s okay too. You’ve just practiced radical energetic responsibility! You’ve named it. And now you can choose what to do with it. 

This is energetic discernment. And it’s a superpower. 

When we learn to feel without absorbing, witness without attaching, and Love without leaking, we become magnetic, unshakable and clear. 

We show up in rooms without losing ourselves.
We stop replaying conversations that weren’t even that deep.
We stop shrinking around people whose energy overwhelms us.
We become the one who sets the energetic tone. We are not the one who gets pulled into it. 

This is exactly what I teach in my online class, 7-Day Sacred Energy Reset. 

This course is your complete energetic reboot.

It’s gentle and deep. Spiritual and grounded. It will teach you how to: 

• Cleanse the emotional residue and energetic buildup you’ve absorbed over the years 
• Ground into your body and become the anchor, not the sponge 
• Protect your field in a way that isn’t rigid, but empowered 
• Maintain your energy hygiene so that you can stay clear, even in messy or emotional spaces 

It’s not just a class. It’s a ritualized journey back to your energetic sovereignty. 

And it’s self-paced, so you can do it wherever you are, whenever you need it. 

I wanted to make this affordable and accessible, so it's only $37!

Enroll in Sacred Energy Reset now!

You don’t need to wait for the perfect time.
If you’ve been feeling off, tired, emotionally foggy, or like you’ve been running on fumes. This is your sign to come home to yourself. 

I’m also happy to help you clear some of the ick in a session. You know if this is your moment. 

Book your session here. 

Whatever you choose, I want you to remember this: 

Your energy is sacred.
Your intuition is valid.
Your peace is worth protecting.
And your body knows the truth…always. 

You are not too sensitive. You are beautifully tuned in.

And now, you get to choose what you hold and what you hand back with love. 



You are the Goddamn Light and I adore you. 

Much Love,

Dena