The Karma Drama had to go!

Why do bad things happen to good people?!

I was raised with a basic understanding of Karma. I was taught to follow the golden rule. So, if Karma were real, then everything should be golden, right? I treated others how I wanted to be treated, but they were not always kind in return.   

In the dictionary, Karma is basically described as cause and effect, which is what most of us are taught.   

So, why do bad things happen to good people?   

When I was younger, this baffled me. I would see some of the kindest and most loving humans (me included) endure some of the most challenging experiences. If Karma were real, then they should be experiencing Love and kindness, right? 

Many of us have found ourselves pushing through bad experiences because we believed Karma would take care of it. We were taught that "they will get theirs!" I don't know about you,, but I got tired of tapping my toes with crossed arms. I was tired of waiting for them to suffer the way I had had to suffer.

Because of this, I eventually stopped believing in the dictionary version of Karma. However, I still had/have issues, so I had to hold on to something. 

I choose to believe that when we die, we are made to feel all the emotions that we have caused others to feel - good and bad. As weird as it may sound, that gives me peace of mind because it has to be fair, right?! 

 When it got challenging for me to see and/or experience unkind people, I used to look at them and think, “Hah! When you die, you will have to feel this suffering that you caused!!” I would feel validated for at least a good 7 seconds.

Then I realized this was making them wrong and giving away my power, so now I reconcile this unfairness with, “it may not be fair now, but it will be sorted out for you eventually, and I will focus on causing good people (including myself) to feel good things!” 

So after freeing myself from that Karma Drama, I came to understand 3 reasons why bad things happen to good people.... 

It's a CONTRACT 

Fortunately, there are times when I'm able to step back and simply say "it's just an experience." It's just part of the illusion for our soul’s growth.

I have a contract with my soul’s energy to do specific things in each lifetime to grow and expand the human experience for myself and for all. 

Whatever events happen in your life, they arise to help you, and others, evolve to a higher state of consciousness. 

 I have a contract in the sky that says, "I have chosen to hold space for this jerk and this crappy experience!" So, I think to myself, I am just going to be the Goddamn Light!  Sunshine Care Bear energy, ACTIVATE! (Yes, these are my real thoughts that I use often. Feel free to use them as well.) 

Being aware of soul contracts helps me relax into what happens instead of resisting it or fighting to comprehend the "fairness factor".  You have contracts that your soul is fulfilling: don’t go into “stories” about what happened. This is not the time for pity parties. Focus on being the Goddamn Light and create your desires. 

It's not about fair: it’s a CONTRACT thing 

It's a FREQUENCY 

Some wisdom has kicked in over the years. My new understanding of Karma has to do with frequency. Everything is energy and has a vibration. My own experience has taught me that like attracts like. It's the Law of Attraction.   

The reason many of my beautiful and Loving friends behave from that kindness space is because they don't want anyone to experience the pain and suffering that they had to endure. They actually go out of their way to help others feel that they belong and that they matter. 

However, something within their frequency still believes that they don’t matter and that they still are not enough. 

“Not enough” is a frequency, therefore, they continue to attract experiences that support that belief. 

Many of us also know entitled people. Because they are vibrating at that frequency, guess what they get to experience? We have all seen it. They get what they want!

Our frequency is not only created in this life but also brought in from past lives. AND it comes through in our DNA, so we are literally clearing or adding to our lineage energy. I am happy to share that I am seeing A LOT of lineage clearing by many of us! If we can stay out of fear and blame, then we become powerhouses for our frequency!   

It's not about fair: it’s a VIBE thing! 

It's NOT YOURS!

We have all experienced this, whether you're conscious of it or not. You are driving down the road, singing along to your favorite song, and then all of a sudden you feel heaviness in your chest or you can't fully catch your breath. You don't know where the feeling came from because you were just living your best life. 

Or when you are at someone’s house and something just feels off and you find yourself wanting to leave as soon as possible. 

We may find ourselves angry and not know why.

These are moments when energy comes in that truly was not ours. I have found that if we do not clear this energy once we are able to recognize it, then emotions creep in that affect us and our loved ones. 

I don’t operate out of fear, so I don't want you to take this too seriously or get too attached to this idea. However, I do want you to be conscious of when this happens so that you can take steps to clear it as soon as possible. When this happens, DO NOT create a story around it. You do not need a memory of the experience. That will just cause suffering later. 

Do your favorite clearing techniques or this NEW one that I will teach you here. I feel bad for not sharing this sooner. It’s not a “pretty” technique 😆 but damn, it has been powerful! There would be times when I would carry yuck energy for much longer than I would have liked and this method is almost immediate! I do it almost daily now as a preventive measure. 

It’s not about fair: it’s not even yours! 

So bad things can happen to good people because it’s a contract, it’s a vibe, or it’s not yours. Let’s keep it as easy as possible. Being aware of these will help you keep out of the "fairness trap" and focus on what you will do to create a better life for yourself.   

Try this Action Plan! 

When bad things happen and “it’s not fair” pops into your head, use these approaches to keep you out of the stories: 

• “I have contracts that my soul is fulfilling.” I will not create stories and pity parties. I focus on being the Goddamn Light and creating my desires. 
• “My frequency is vibrating at a different belief.”  Shift this by changing your limiting belief with EFT (watch here). 
• “The energy does not belong to me.” Use the Sternum-Throat Method (watch here) this is a super-effective technique, let me know how it goes for you! And diffuse some Clary Sage essential oil (details below!)

So now that we are more aware of what's actually happening, we never have to blame anyone for our unhappiness!! Well, except our partners. We can still blame our partners 🤣

No valid reason here. It’s just something I like to do to keep it spicy 🌶

At the end of the day, life is an illusion. We are here to have a human experience, which is NOT easy, but when we consciously take our power back from the yuck moments and do not create stories about the yuck experiences, then we truly become creators of a better reality.   

Much Love, 

Dena Gould