What finally burst my bubble!

It is definitely challenging being a human and having triggers and trauma and always staying in the positive.

But the more you work on yourself, the more you clear out the fear, and the more you retrain your brain and body, the better life becomes. 

I am proof of this. 

I had the anger bubble for a lot of my early life and I did not know why I could not get rid of it.

I was so angry!

Isn't that surprising!? Most people never knew of my anger, I hid it so well. Of course, only those close to me would see the real me. Isn’t it funny  we spend all that time hiding from the world when the world needs us to be who we are?

I was SO angry. 

I had to swallow so much pain, so many of my words, so many of my emotions so that the rest of the world could be comfortable.

That's what I told myself as that young child. But over time I realized that we were never meant to push down the emotions. The emotions are meant to be honored.

I didn't know what was wrong with me because I couldn't be genuinely happy. I know that this anger contributed to my autoimmune disease.

But over time, the more I practiced feeling how I wanted to feel while breathing into and allowing my body to experience the anger, I was able to then experience the frustration, disappointment and sadness.

It became less scary and the better I felt. 

I recently had an experience that brought up deep anger. I hadn't felt it that deep for at least 10 years! My immediate response was to resist it and get upset at it showing up.

Thankfully, listening to "Living Untethered" for the second time reminded me that it was just my samskaras - those mental impressions, recollections, or psychological imprints that I had not allowed myself to process. I also like to refer to it as our bullshit stories.

Once Michael Singer refreshed my memory, I was able to change my perspective and the experience became a gift. It is an opportunity for me to be present with and process those samskaras.

We must continue to be conscious, we must continue to release the need to control, and we must continue to go within and do the work needed to create the experience we desire

I observe so many people trying to control their outer world to feel safe.

Could you imagine how much better life would be if we focused all that energy on ourselves and did the inner work? 

When we do the inner work, we fear less about the outer world.

We fear less about what we cannot control.


Take these two action steps with me this month! And see if we can get some of that fear to clear and anger to release in a safe way.

Dig in
Think about how you handle anger in your life. Do you use an addiction to escape? Do you take it out on others? Do you avoid or stuff it down? Consider listening to your anger to find out why it is there. Journal and have a dialog with it. This inner work is empowering and does not need to be feared.

Take Action
This month, I would love it if every morning and evening, you look at yourself in the mirror and state out loud,

"I am safe to honor all of my emotions.

I am proud of myself for this awareness.

I allow them to flow and I let them go.

I will not continue to feed what does not feel good, but I will not run from those feelings either.

I am safe. I am safe. I am safe.

I am a creator in the present moment." 

And from time to time throw in, "It's not my journey" throughout the day when you find yourself attempting to control others.

If you need some help with this, jump on my schedule or waitlist, and let’s clear out some trauma. The Brain Synchronization Therapy has been very successful with my clients in effectively clearing out negative subconscious beliefs.

Or better yet, if you want to see how much you can clear in a long weekend with like-minded women, please join us for Sol Rejuvenation in April. Sorry fella’s, however, if you are looking for a retreat of your own, please check out the “Angry Therapist.” He has a men’s retreat and some great books. I Love his work. 

Let's spend this month focusing all that energy within, and see how good we can allow ourselves to feel!

Much Love,

Dena Gould