The Power of Perspective: How Shifting Your Lens Changes Your Energy and Relationships

When Relationships Feel Heavy: A Client Story

The Universe has such a funny way of winking at us.

One of my regular clients, someone I’ve been working with for over seven years, came into session recently with a heavy heart. She shared her frustration with her in-laws. Once upon a time she adored them, but things had shifted. They were showing up unannounced, staying too long, and disrupting the natural flow of her home.

When I asked how her husband felt about it, she sighed and said, “He loves them. He knows they can be a pain in the butt sometimes, but he doesn’t want to appear ungrateful and cause family problems.”

Why boundaries aren’t always the only answer

With this understanding, we discussed the better boundaries option, but I shared that would most likely cause “family problems.” I shared that when I experience situations that are messing with my energy or better yet appear to be a “me” problem, then I do my best to...

change my perspective.

Of course you have to have discernment, but if the in-laws weren’t going to change and her husband didn’t see an issue, then the only space she truly had power in was her own perspective.

I suggested that if she could soften her lens, just a little, she might shift the energy around them. Maybe she could even learn to look forward to their presence instead of feeling drained by it.

And then the Universe laughed with me: the very next week, on the first of September, I pulled my card for the month. The card that revealed itself? Perspective. You can’t make this stuff up.

The Power of Shifting Perspective

This synchronicity reminded me of a truth I do my best live by; when we shift our perspective, we shift our vibration. And when we shift our vibration, we change everything.

Energy Ripples: How Your Vibration Affects Others

Energy is not contained. It ripples.

If I walk into a room angry, resentful, or insecure, the people around me will feel it. They will either match my frequency or feel like they’re being judged, pulled, or drained. But if I walk into that same room with genuine love, excitement, and admiration, my energy invites others to meet me there.

This is my favorite place to meet people.

We are always holding up mirrors to one another. If I believe someone dislikes me, that belief colors my interactions. But when I choose to see them differently, when I approach with openness, love, or even curiosity, I change the mirror. Their energy shifts in response to mine.

Love, curiosity, and openness as energetic tools

This has been true in my marriage as well. In the past, when I would unconsciously expect my husband to carry the weight of my happiness, he would feel my energy as needy and demanding. This type of energy makes people feel like they are never enough. But when I pause, tend to my own insecurities, and remember all that I love about him, the energy between us softens. He doesn’t just feel lighter, I feel lighter too. That’s when love flourishes.

Perspective in Marriage and Love

This is the magic of perspective. It doesn’t mean pretending frustrations don’t exist. It means claiming our role as creators of the energy we bring. It means choosing the lens that brings more love, more connection, more freedom.

Your October Invitation: Notice Where You’re Stuck

So as October unfolds, I invite you to notice where your perspective has gotten stuck. Where could a subtle shift open space for more love? Where could a softer lens bring ease?

We never know how powerful one small shift can be until we try it. Perspective changes energy, energy changes relationships, and relationships change the way we experience life.

I wonder what card I will pull for October.

With perspective, with presence, with love,
Dena