What Goes Around Comes Around

And that includes kindness. Of course we know to be kind to others, but why doesn’t it seem to come as naturally to be just as kind to ourselves? We all take part in negative self-talk at some time or another, so let’s go ahead and address it.

Has it ever inspired you? When has beating yourself up ever made you feel good, or even brought about positive changes? Just because a loved one―or even a stranger―made you feel stupid, ugly, mean, lazy, etc., doesn't make it true. YOU are the only one that can allow it to be true. YOU are also the only one that can change these limiting beliefs. IT IS ONLY A THOUGHT…a thought that you are giving power.

So, how do we avoid it? By beginning our day with intention. By playing out in our heads how we want the day to go―how we want to feel and what we want to accomplish. And by saying nice things to ourselves. This allows us to center our energy so we can be less reactive and more in control of our lives.

This month, try shifting your energy with these five daily steps:

1. Visualize

Yes, one of my favorites. Visualizing how your day will play out sets the intention for how you want to experience it. It puts YOU in control, rather than just letting life happen to you.

2. Journal every morning

Before you do anything else, get out everything that’s on your mind―all the ifs, buts and worry you’re carrying around. Yes, you may have to wake up a little earlier to make this happen, but it is so worth it. Consider it your morning dump (Read The Artist's Way if you’re looking for inspiration). Daily journaling helps de-clutter your thoughts so you can be present, which takes me to the next step.

3. Live in the moment

The moment is where the magic is. The past is gone and can't be changed, so stop beating yourself up for bad choices. If you’re not living in the now, then you’re missing the fun. You can enjoy your reality by actually living in it!

4. Gratitude always

When we are grateful for what we have, we are less likely to spiral into the “poor me" cycle. If only bad things seem to happen to you then, unfortunately, you are playing the victim role. And we all know being a victim never feels good. So don't allow yourself to go there. Go with gratitude instead. I know it’s not always easy, but with a little effort, you will see how gratitude can change your life.

5. Be a friend

There is nothing more satisfying, inspiring and motivating than being of service to others. Humans need humans. Be a friend. Listen without judgment, make someone a meal, send a card. You know what it takes. Do it from the heart and without expectation; otherwise, it will not feed your soul.

You have probably heard all these steps before, especially if you’ve had a session with me. But, they bear repeating. Remember, YOU can control your happiness and decide how you want each day to play out. Don’t let anyone take that from you. And even if your friend takes the last piece of chocolate cake, know that you can always make more!

Sometimes we need help and direction to change our hidden habits. Be sure to check out my Art of Loving You and Connect With Your Spirit Guide classes to help get you out of your head and into your happiness!