When we are feeling confused, lonely, or insecure, we tend to not be kind to ourselves or others. Many of us have found ourselves in this position quite a bit this year with all of the unexpected changes. Our energy has been pulled in many directions.

What is still pulling at your energy?

Are you still pissed at COVID-19? Are you still reliving how things should have gone? Are you upset at a friend or family member for not knowing/doing something that was important to you? Are you frustrated with yourself for your choices or lack of awareness?

Think about these things for a moment and then notice your energy…

Those pangs are the places that you need to go first to release the resistance.

They only have power if you allow them to have power.

I have found the best way for me to do this is to take back my power and ACCEPT what happened. When we accept we can FORGIVE.

Let’s Forgive.

I propose we use this month to practice forgiveness. Forgive so that we are not taking this energy into the new year. When we forgive, we give ourselves what we most need - we give ourselves back the power over our feelings. We take back the power from that thing you did, from that person who hurt you, from that thing that happened to you. We let go of that mind struggle that says, “I need to hold on to this until it is right, until it is changed, until it is different.”  We give ourselves more space to breathe into, more space to hold the thoughts and energy that serve us, not sink us. 

We allow ourselves space to be the damn light we were born to be!

Imagine how good we will feel when we release our resistance to FEELING GOOD. We don’t need to look back at this year in irritation. Let’s look back in awareness and reflect on our experiences.

Identify that heavy energy.

Sometimes it just takes the right questions for me to tap into those little hidden blocks of heavy energy so that I can begin to honor those hurts and pains, forgive them, and move them out. When I can better understand why I am hurting, it softens me up a bit. It helps me to accept what happened. Compassion and forgiveness can flow and breathe air into the resistance, which allows the energy to move again.

These are some of the questions that I have asked myself in the past.

• How would my life be different if I did not need so and so to be wrong or suffer?
• Why is so and so angry/scared/sad?
• How would my life be different if I chose to accept what happened and forgive so and so?
• Why am I choosing to suffer by continuing to give this negative thought power?
• What if I allowed it to be easier to take my power back and stopped being upset and attached to this experience.
• How would I feel if I didn’t need to have this thought again?
• Why am I choosing to subconsciously suffer over something that has already happened?
• What would my life feel like if I forgave myself and released the guilt? 
• What steps can I actively take now to let this pain go and move forward in compassion and gratitude?

See what comes up for you. Allow and make space for whatever feelings arise, and honor them all. Now that you’ve pinpointed those pangs, tell them, “Thank you for your lesson. I’m done. I forgive.”

It’s all energy peeps. It doesn’t care who did what when. It just flows where it is thought into existence. The energy doesn’t care if you are right or wrong. When you resist it, it will resist you. When you allow it, it will allow you. Return to the old saying, would I rather be right or would I rather be happy?

Accept and Forgive. Clean out that funk and junk now, refuse to bring it with you into the new year. Or the new day!

Happy holidays, to you and all your loved ones. I know we can't have everything we are used to right now, but make this the year that you focus on your energy and releasing what is keeping you stuck. Give yourself that gift.
 

Keep shining,
Much love,
Dena