You can shine YOUR light in the tunnel!

We are starting to see a light at the end of the pandemic tunnel, and we begin again to experience another shift in our social lives. You would think this would be exciting, but it is a bit too bright for some of us that have gotten used to the dimness.

How do we show up after all of the lessons and experiences that we have had?

My best advice is to do it on your terms! I don't care about who you were before this, I want to know who you are now. That is how I want to meet you. That is how I am showing up for you.

Let’s re-engage with society in a way that fits our energy by being just who we are!

But let’s get clear on that first!

I always take time to reflect first. In a year + of pandemic life: so many memories, experiences, emotions. So much quiet and stillness. Some days I thrived, and some days I completely lost it. And through it all, I am my energy.

I am my energy.

I have recently realized how much I measure my experiences in energy. If you ask me to do something, I ask myself, how much energy is involved? Can I be present or will my other obligations or needs pull me from the moment? I can usually engage and enjoy just about any person in any situation, but if I am not present, then it’s not worth it for anyone. We all deserve Love and attention. If I do not have the capacity to BE with you, I will Love you enough to say, no thank you.

What about you? What have you learned about yourself during this time? What do you want to spend your energy doing? If you have found that your light dimmed a bit in the quiet, could it be possible that connection with the right people could energize you?

As humans, we need other humans. The best way to find our humans is to be who we are. When we try to be someone we are not, all we are doing is attracting people that are not in alignment with our energy. We want to attract our tribe. We want to attract people who are in our same frequency, and we cannot do that if we are not being authentically us. Whether we are learning from others because of our differences or whether we feel safe to completely sink into them because of our similarities, we must show up as we are.

Show up as you are.

What steps can you take to stand in your energy and be your authentic self?

If you have not already, please get clear on this. Journal on this. If you did not have any fear, how would this look for you? How would it feel? Take the time to self-reflect and show up as that best version of you each day. SHOW UP ON YOUR TERMS! I personally Love seeing you in sweats with mismatched socks.

Do not apologize for being who you are. Do not allow yourself to fall into comparisons, excuses, or Poor Me’s - the “easy outs” that might cover the uncomfortable feelings that come with authenticity and vulnerability.

I will never know from our interaction what you did and did not do during this year, how far down your to-do list you got, how many steps you did not take toward your goals/etc. I will only be present with the you right in front of me, as you are. I will sink into the joy of our collective energy and be grateful for our moment of human connection.

Show up as just as you are!

Create at least 3 mantras to help you to interrupt negative thought habits and allow yourself to be authentically you. Here are some examples:

“I am enough!”

“Here I am. It’s me!”

“I am the best version of me!”

“I am Confident/Peace/Light/Badass.”

“I am the damn Light!”

Use these to power yourself up before you step out of the door or walk into a room. Announce yourself silently in your head, with a little badassary, “Here I am, it’s me!

Let’s use this next season to JUST BE. Let’s not add any regret or resentment to our life. You are the damn light!

Much Love,

Dena Gould